– [Producer] What are your
thoughts on coming out? – I did it a long time ago. – It was in 1953 at 10am
when they cut me out. – [Producer] Have you ever
come out to anyone before? – It’s obvious. – When I meet people, they
pretty well know I’m gay. – And I’m so butch, so I have no problem. – [Producer] How would you feel about sharing your coming out story on camera? – I have no problem with it. In fact, you could
probably even make a movie or a musical out of mine. – [Producer] Great, let’s get started. – Hollywood! – [Producer] When did you
first realize you were gay? – I’d say about two years old for me and I was just being myself, I just loved men. Nothing sexually, I just
liked to be around men. – For me it was going to the matinees when I was a young kid. Oh, my God. Flash Gordon, Hopalong Cassidy, Billy the Kid. I always knew something
inside of me was different because I had a different reaction to men than I did for women. – For me, I was probably
around five or six years old and I loved looking at
the underwear section of Sears catalogs. – See, that was women’s section for me. – No, men’s section for
me, never the women. – [Producer] What did you come out as? – I came out as me and I liked men. No, I didn’t. I loved them. It didn’t have a name. – When I came out, I couldn’t
wait to jump into bed with a man. Period. I mean, there was no hiding it. – I’m not really sure what
you mean by “coming out”. – [Producer] Tell
somebody that you’re gay. – I don’t think I ever
really said the word “gay”, I just did. – It didn’t exist. – Yeah. – Yeah, for real. – I confess that I’ve never
been to bed with a woman and I’ve never had the desire. – [Producer] When did you come out? – I was 27 – to my mother, finally. She kept saying “When are
you getting married?”, so I just wrote this letter
to this awesome woman and told her that I’m gay. – The first truly gay experience I had was in the 7th grade. in Arkansas and a new guy had moved to town and he was just the cutest guy and one night he came over
to the house for a sleepover and I asked him what it
was like kissing the girls and he said ‘Here, let me show you’. – All right, praise the lord. – And I came out in May of 1960. – Oh, my God. – [Producer] The whole month? – It was probably in
San Francisco, so yes… – It was a year-long celebration. – My coming out was totally planned. I got a fake library card and I checked out books on homosexuality, so I could find out terms
back then like “trade”, and “butch” and “queen”. I always knew I was gay and I didn’t want anybody
to break my secret because in 1960, if they
found out you were gay… I mean, kids today talk about coming out. When I came out, you
didn’t say a word about it and if I would’ve told anyone I was gay, that would be the end of me. – [Producer] Did anyone
ever react negatively? – Before coming out, my dad
was a policeman in my hometown and I fall in love and I’d written someone a letter and he threatened to kill me. Um… And it hurt so much that my dad would actually… And I knew that he would
do it if he found out that I was a queer, but I butched it up and go “This isn’t even my handwriting, why do you think I would
do something like this?”. You know, it was scary. Hearing that from your parent… He was adamant about that and that hurt. – And my dad was always
trying to prove I was gay. Here I was, trying to
be just a regular guy and he was literally out to get me. It wasn’t to support and say “Bill, that’s okay, you’re gonna be fine.” He ostracized me. – Yeah. – [Producer] Do you wanna
talk about your family? – Well, I never said to my mom or to my two brothers I’m gay, but over time it was very clear, they all knew who I was and
they all accepted who I was. – Yeah. ‘Cause you’re still the same person. – Yeah. – I’ve always wanted to
be treated like a person, not “Oh, he’s gay” or that, I wanted to be a people. – [Producer] When did
coming out become a thing? – It started in the ’70s and then in the ’80s everybody came out, even the people from the Midwest, it was okay all of the sudden to be gay. – [Producer] Is coming out important? – Of course. – Absolutely. – Yes. I think it’s very important that everyone accept who they are. That’s the only way you can
be honest with the world. – [Producer] Are there any
other coming out experiences you wanna share? (sighs) – You only come out once. – [Producer] Well, you can
come out to each person. – Oh, coming out to people. I would’ve had a very boring
life if I hadn’t come out. – I’m glad I was able to. – Totally. – These kids are so blessed to have this. I mean, I was blessed
because I’ve heard stories from people older than me. Everybody has helped
everybody along the way. – [Producer] What’s the
best part about being out? – The best to me is being out. – And not losing friends. – The people you meet during your life. There’s a certain kindredness
with others that are gay. – [Producer] What do you have
to say to anyone thinking about coming out? – Go for it. – I say do it in your own time. – It’s not as frightening
as you may think. – In fact, it’s quite pleasurable. – In many ways.

Author Since: Mar 11, 2019

  1. I came out during a confessional when I was 13 years old. That day was the best effin day of my life. That good old Priest stood up and got to my level while I was sobbing and said “you are child of god and i love you. I will pray you but I will always hold your hand during the sadness.” I was very lucky to have that. Most of my peers didn’t.
    My family was a different story but they eventually came around. We are all human. We are all people. We should ALL be treated as such. The only thing that creates hate is us.

  2. 2:42 I literally did that in 2005, but on Wikipedia. The page still exists (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_slang) but back then, I seem to remember it was merely called "Gay Slang", and certainly did not involve most (if not all) of the language pertaining to our queer, trans, non-binary and other friends and allies. Just goes to show how the push for being better at being inclusive is a force for good in our world. edit 4:58 Even these days, blessed isn't a word I would use. My coming out involved me getting regularly lapidated (that means a mob throwing stones and other related objects at you, if you didn't know) on the daily. In school. In urban Canada. In the late 2000's. In front of all the teachers, principals and other adults who turned a blind eye. I hope kids have it better now that we find ourselves 10 years into the future, but with social media and all, I would just assume the bullying follows them home, instead of merely stopping when the bell rings.

  3. "You only come out once."

    Well, no. Coming out is a process, not an event. You come out to yourself, you come out to one confidant, you come out to those closest to you, you come out to family, to friends, to colleagues. EVENTUALLY you just live and people either become aware of it, or they don't.

  4. Honestly I think that everyone should come out when they are ready. But I truly hope one day queers don't have to come out anymore. We can just love who we love and people won't blink and eye.

  5. These men as well as other older LGBT+ folk paved the way for us all to be free to be ourselves. I’m forever grateful for their strength. ❤️

  6. I don't know if this may be a little late for y'all but if you don't mind doing a "react" or get the older gays to give an opinion on how it is with this upcoming generation of queer people. Like the bullying that still goes on. To see if we could still carry on Channing Smith from Manchester, TN. If you do thank you so much…

  7. I just realised something when they talked about people older than them. When they were in their teens or early 20s, they would have lived with elders who were from the Victorian era,that's so cool. Idk,that just popped in my head. 😅

  8. "Everybody has helped everybody along the way" this is why generational changes are so important. Nothing will change for our kids or grandkids if we don't start setting in motion the things that will allow change

  9. No one should ever apologize to be their own self, explore and experience life as a free human being without society stigma, judgement and discrimination. That’s the essence of stonewall and that is what our elders fought for. There is nothing in this life that gay people do that “normal” people never did. Back in the stonewall era, the gay community was invaded with drug use and sexual practices and diseases that society saw as a life of debauchery, perversion and sin. But when stonewall happened, it happened for everything that the gay community represented. They stood up for all of us and demand that their freedom, dignity and human decency be respected regardless of how one chooses to live their own life. We celebrated our differences and diversity and refused to be defined by those. That was the essence of stonewall. But today despite this audacious but yet triumphant act of courage and love for who we are, we ironically condone stigmatization, discrimination and hate towards people in our own community. Not to minimize our efforts to get marriage equality, but is that the biggest challenge that faces our community today? We are so divided, stigmatize and discriminate against our own people sometimes even more than the people who do not understand they way we are born. We walk over our peers who fall, who are different or sick, keep them at distance and laugh at them yet we take pride every year and demand that other people who do not understand the way we are to accept us. When we talk about pride and stonewall, are we talking about seeing ourself in other that are like us and hand in hand help each other with our community shortcomings and fight for what could raise all of us to feel proud, valued and capable to be our best self and transcend to the benefit of our people?Why do we have black pride, Latino pride, and “the gay pride”? Are there factions of the gay community or we are just one community that is fighting for basic freedom and rights for all that conforms to the stonewall essence? I see a lot that looks like all the perversions that comes with human existence but get painted on the gay community just because they are different in our own community like drug addition, all sorts of fantasy sexual behaviors like these never happen in society as a whole yet we gay people help demonize our own people for what we are actually well known for while our folks are reckoning with childhood trauma, anxiety, depression and drug abuses and getting help is unaffordable, costly and difficult to get. Why are our folks with these issue afraid to go seek help because they are afraid of stigma and therapists who make you feel like your problems don’t matter? It is easy to say love yourself before seeking love from others, shouldn’t we accept each other, help fix what we see as issues in our own community, love and stand with each other before asking others to do the same? In fact, let’s face it most gays that are out there are incapable of loving themselves, hence the absolute or unit and love in the community. Unless the freedom we are fighting for is the new heteronormative like community, we have a long way to go. like some would say, nobody will love you unless you love yourself. But hey, who is dying over this? We can’t harness love but we proud to be who we are can carry the legacy of freedom, just like our elders have shown us. Maybe everything happens for a reason.

  10. “My dad said he’d kill me” bruh that broke my heart. I’m so blessed to have the family that I do and I’m so sorry for anyone who has to experience that. Disgusting how do you say that to your son?!

  11. Wow. Having your dad wanting to prove you were gay just to ostracize you? I can ALMOST relate to that, but not because I turned out to be gay, ironically enough.

    My mom used to be super strict with me growing in up, and when I told her some of my friends were gay….. well. She was trying to tell me to say I was a lesbian since then, and every conversion about sexuality was just stressful for me growing up. She had me cut out some people from my life (we re-connected 2 years ago). She’s one of those people who believes that people can become gay unfortunately. This was my late middle school life that went on until I was in college.

    But the real kicker? I never felt attracted to a girl in my life. I even watched films to see if I felt horny and see if I had a big “oh, I guess I’m a lesbian” moment. But it never happened. I’m not gonna lie, but I was relieved, because I was afraid what my mother have done if I was, at least at THAT time. That’s how much her strictness messed with me for the longest time; “well, I don’t like girls, but she’s not letting this go…. but what if I am??”

    She couldn’t understand that I hanged out with my gay friends because that’s all they were to me; my friends. She just thought that because I had gay friends, then I HAD to be gay too.

    And yes, I do come from a religious (well, culturally) family. We’re catholic.

  12. They make it sound like a cake walk I was disowned and beaten. But in the long run I wouldn’t change anything because I am who I am today because of my past. I wouldn’t have a wonderful husband and 3 kids. But I owe my life to my husband and the clumsily old hag of a teacher before him, because that day I was going to commit suicide but because the teacher broke her hip the day before and ended up taking retirement and we had a new teacher (my husband) is the reason I am still here.

  13. The black man saying he's dad threatened to kill him is painful hit me deep. Because I exactly know how that feels and I'm not even gay.

  14. Most people already know that you are gay before you come out to them. Things are a lot easier these days, and it's a lot more acceptable these days.

  15. The "Praise the Lord!" Gives me life. This is such a black thing.😂😂 This is how we say oooo baby you got it boo

  16. I feel so thankful everyday for older lgbt people like them who struggled and fought for their rights through those tough decades so now I can freely be myself.

  17. 2:02 I'm from Arkansas and 23 years old and just had my first real gay experience when I felt so…..much. It was kinda indescribable. I guess I'm really bi, I've only dated women but am not very interested in dating a woman right now, but actively seeking a boyfriend

  18. I'm a bisexual female and I just gotta say your guys' videos are some of my favorites to watch about the community and how much you and it has changed. 💜💜💜💜

  19. Remember when chowing down on a fellas meat stick had to be kept a secret for fear of a good razzin'?
    Well, Pepperidge farms remembers

  20. Always wondered why gays talk like fairies. Why can't you talk normal and be gay without the flamboyance. Do they think "hey I'm gay so I need to make it obvious" or do they put on the jazz hands and stuff. It's kind of strange when you think about it.

  21. I don't think you ever forget that first time you say to someone, I'm gay. I'll never forget it. Suddenly I felt free. That friend will never know just how much it meant to say those words (I'm gay). I slept with one woman 30 yrs ago and I'm still dealing with the emotional scars. I did it for everyone but me and I just realized I feel as though somehow I was raped. That's just how I feel but it did make realize that I'm truly gay and for that I am grateful! PS I think the little guy in the middle is a real turn on. BTW I'm 54 and my husband is 79. been together nearly 28 yrs!

  22. I never had to come out because my mum and sister are Pansexual. I came out as Transgender but that didn't even really count because it was never a big deal

  23. Miss mick but omg they are amazing them and the others helped us able for these times and the closet isnt really as pushed on them

  24. I feel so deeply what the black guys went through my parents also threatened to kill me said they wished I was dead when I came out it was the worst week of my entire life pure hell

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